| elliesmom |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 06/01/10 10:59 AM |
Re: Divorce questions
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I don't know your situation, but I can tell you this.
I don't know how he could possibly get a divorce without you agreeing to it before he leaves.
And yes it is normal for guys to freak out a little bit before they deploy. I have never heard of one asking for divorce they didn't want though.
I would just tell him that nothing is happening before he gets back. And try to keep him involved with your child - for both of their sake. Maybe you can get him to send you a video or a tape of him reading a book so s/he will at least still know his voice. My twins were 8 months old when daddy left and 18 months when he returned. And they seemed to not miss a beat after watching a video of dad almost every day - he was almost like a cool tv character they were getting to meet.
And then when he gets back you can deal with "us."
But be prepared - the decision to marry you may have been his "freak out" moment instead of asking for a divorce. But maybe he can make his peace with that and move on as a family.
I just wouldn't be waiting here and planning for a happy reunion. I would start getting my life without him (job, rental home, daycare, etc) on track. So if he comes to his senses and wants a family great. If not - Buh-bye. KWIM?