| Karen1 |
| (Pooh-Bah) |
| 07/28/06 12:36 PM |
Re: Divorce after long-term marriage--Male thing?
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Agree with Matilda's post. I read a post on here once about it being mainly women filing for divorce and that it meant that the women wanted the divorce. Of course that got replied to hot and heavy.
My feeling on that is the many of the who men leave either do not want to take the time or money to file (both of those would take away from their "new life") and / or they do now want it going before a judge because they think they can put something over on their wives when it comes to settlement. Thus the women is forced to file for a divorce she may not want, just for some legal protection as to assets etc.
I also think that women as a rule are more prone to talking about things that are upsetting them, and men not as prone. That is unfortunate to the men who can no, or will no, talk over with others when something is emotionally distressing them etc.
I filed for a divorce I did not want because I got fed up with trying to work with EX on settlement after 20 months of trying. That, and legal protection for my share of our marital assets. The fact that he was living high with his OW factored in there also. Funny thing... he was so upset the day divorce papers (for the divorce he wanted) were served on him that he had to phone off work because he was upset. I know why he was upset.... it was going to be in the hands of the court and he does not like equitable distribution.
After 30 years of marriage, he thought all he had to do was walk out the day and could take whatever he wanted, and no division on assets etc. When he knew I was not going to stand for that, it threw him into emotional distress. And that was long overdue!
Karen