| rschiller |
| (old hand) |
| 10/26/06 03:50 PM |
It's been five years, why do I feel sorry for him?
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It's been five years for me being divorced. My x remarried thirty days after the divorce was final, but I was the one who originally sought the divorce due to abuse.
His marriage now is not going too well and he is miserable.
I have dated some, but just haven't found someone special to share my kids with. It's taken me a long time to heal and be happy.
My kids come home from visiting their dad and they are in peril because life over there is "unbearable" according to them. Step mom yells at them, tells them they are to blame for their problems, they also blame me for their woes because of child support. Wife is still in school and will be till Feb. it's taking her a year and a half to finish her Beauty college, all at their dad's expense, plus taking care of her kids cs because she has no custody.
My problem is, I acutally feel sorry for the guy. I feel bad especially for my kids. I don't want the moron back, he was abusive, but why am I feeling sorry for the guy?
I am so ready to start a new fresh relationship. Every part of my life is squared away, and it would be really nice to share my life with someone. So I guess I have two things going on here...............
1. I feel sorry for the X.
2. I can't seem to allow myself the chance to let someone into my life.
I am beginning to think somehow these two things might be related. For the longest time I wouldn't allow someone in my life because my kids needed my full attention. Now, they are 15 and 11 and things are changing
Gosh, life is good but I am confused.
Just wondering if anyone else out there has or had a similar situation.