| rschiller |
| (old hand) |
| 07/25/07 08:54 PM |
Re: In-Laws (again)
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Well, CiCi, it's been years for me now out of my divorce and the in laws still pose a problem for me too.
At first they were angry at me for just not forgiving my x for his abuse and taking him back. They claimed he had changed, I did not see it. Then, the X moved another woman into our old house about two weeks or so right after the kids and I moved out.
At first my XMIL told me, "She makes him feel good about himself, and he's never had that before". Ha, I said.
NOW, well, completely different story. They cannot stand this woman, miss me, have told me, and tear up every time they see me, especially my XFIL.
Recently the kids were at their dad's and they were supposed to go spend the day with their grandparents. Well, step sister didn't want to go, so my kids didn't get to go and they expressed to me that they were upset. We just got back from visiting my parents and I had them call their grandparents that live here and we talked finally after years.
I am going to drop them off for two seperate days next week to visit. I want them to know that despite how their son feels about me, I want them to have a good relationship with their grandchildren. I was worried that we might be overstepping boundries but it seemed to be a positive conversation.
The point here is that you never know until you try. No matter how hard it is, it's good for your children to see you getting along with everyone they love. No matter what, these folks are still your kids grandparents. I would hold my head up, smile, and just do it. Don't let them think you have anything to hide by not going over there. You have done nothing wrong and the truth does finally come out in the end.
Hope this helps a little.