| PhoenixRising |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 07/31/07 12:39 AM |
Re: PR, you can make a graceful exit
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"You stand up and say "Thank you for the lovely time. The babies look so sweet. However I promised to read to a blind friend this afternoon. I will call you tomorrow." And kiss everyone goodbye"
AGREED!
That is the stage that I am at, now.
I can talk the talk w/ my kids but can't quite get to the walk the walk.
My kids benefit from their relationship w/ my ex. I do not begrudge them that and I have done everything I can to promote it.
My kids have been very vocal about NOT wanting to be in the same room as us.
They have been exposed too many of his outbursts which my presence sets off in him; they feverently wish to never experience another, again.
Up until now the Order of Protection has precluded me having to even think about it.
Someday, I will not be afraid of him. That day is not today.
As long as I am able to mask my feelings to the kids; I feel that I am fulfilling my job as their mother. There are so many handy dandy excuses; I have no plan on letting them catch on.
The little events are not so hard: birthdays, graduations, etc...
My ex claims to no longer believe in God so no chance of him showing up for christenings, communions, confirmations..
I still don't know how anyone handles "the wedding" all those "extra" parents! Dads and StepDads; Moms and StepMoms: 4 sets of relation..
Well as the Groom's mom; I just have to show up; so I guess my part is easy :)
Thanks Kiwi. I think your posts are quite helpful.