| LadyBugRN |
| (veteran) |
| 08/12/07 09:49 PM |
Re: Finality
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Hi CiCi,
You still care because you're still hurting and it smarts big time. I know, I remember the feelings well. It doesn't always make sense and it may not for still a long time to come. You are not strange, different, weird or unique in all these feelings. It is very true, there is a thin line between love and hate. The bitterness will pass with time. You will one day realize it's just gone. You've moved on. You don't care what he's doing anymore or who he's doing it with. For now, it's just still fresh and hasn't healed. Give it more time, you will get there.
Like you, I found out through the mail that I was finally divorced. There it was, in black and white, done! I had been divorced for a whole week and didn't even know it. For whatever odd reason I called my now exH and told him. I expected some kind of reaction, all I got was "Ok, thanks." After 21 years of marriage, that was it. No party, which I had actually planned on doing for my own sake, no pomp and circumstances, no real emotion. It was just another day, which in the scheme of things, seemed very, very, very surreal.
Hugs,
Lori