| Debi |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 08/17/07 02:52 PM |
Re: New and looking for some kind words
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Yrenga,
To be honest with you when I got divorced I couldn't imagine all that emotion either. I don't think my x and I loved each other enough to have ever gotten married. I came to this board and I couldn't relate to how some of the posters felt, much like you can't now. Then a year after my divorce I met my x SO. I figured out what it was like to love someone so much that just the sight of them made you smile, some one you couldn't wait to talk to. The intimacy was something I had never experienced before, and I don't think it's something you can describe to someone who has never felt that kind of love. I know I didn't get it before I met him. The end of our relationship was so devestating to me that I wasn't sure how (or even why) to go on. It was at that point that I realized what everyone else had felt when their marriages ended.
I'm not sure it's a good way to live either. That's one of the issues I'm still dealing with. I don't know that I can ever invest that kind of emotion in another person and I don't know if it's fair to get involved with someone if I can't. It's kind of a double edge sword.