| kav |
| (old hand) |
| 09/11/05 09:19 AM |
Re: Hi Karen
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Melanie
What you say about the x's not changing, maybe you're right. Maybe we do see someone else and don't see the true person. But isn't that a little scary then? If we move on and get past the hurt and start to date again, how do we know who we are actually with? Do we need to wonder through a whole relationship what that person is truly like? My stbx would do things that would suprise me and he would tell me that I would never "really" know him. But if he was the selfish person that I see now, wouldn't I have seen that? You know, I think writing this that I actually did answer my own question. I did see a selfish person. It's just different now because the selfishness is focused in a new direction. Now I get it Melanie, thanks!!! Sometimes you need to talk out loud and it comes right to you. You pointed me in the right direction. The signs were there just with tv or restaurants or the inconsideration of not phoning when coming home late. I gotta tell you I feel much better now understanding it.
Kim