| SteelersJR1 |
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| 10/18/05 10:55 PM |
Re: A sense of humor...
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wow, passem-you lost me. what do "assets" have to do with the 13th Amendment? and to quote: "Sometimes the home is best broken up and doing so is not always a reflection on parenting skills." AnneB said it all. I cheated in my 1st marriage & I'm still and probably always will regret every moment my wife lay awake waiting for me. I was a fool and lost a lot-I'm not talking about financial, I'm talking about missing my daughter grow up. I didn't see school plays. I didn't teach her how to ride a bike. I missed the proms and 1st date. I didn't get a chance to teach her how to drive. I thank God every day that we are able to be close now. I couldn't blame her if she didn't want to have anything to do with me. A home is NOT a home when there are outside "things" going on. I had no integrity 17 years ago. My current wife has none now. Are we the same? In many ways, yes. We both are/were looking for fulfillment that we obviously weren't/aren't getting with our spouses. But the similarity ends there. My ex-wife and I still talk to this day. She offered to be a character witness in my trial if I needed her. My STBX is for herself. Period. She has no compunction in who she hurts, including her children. I'm not saying that from a revenge angle. I'm saying it because I watch her "raise" her daughter for 7 years, and saw that child get no discipline and not a lot of love. i DID see her get taught that it's OK to lie to the school if you don't feel like going. I saw her be taught that it's OK to "just get by" in school work. I saw her be taught that courtesy and respect are things that aren't important, as long as you get what you want. Rearing children, teaching them what is right and wrong, how to live with compassion and respect-THOSE are what make a house a home. Not people alone. Why bother with marriage at all if we open the door to "no-fault"? Isn't it ALWAYS someone's fault? It may be both together, but the divorce fairy doesn't drop out of the sky & wave her magic wand. Not working at the issues are a fault. Now, granted, there hasto be an out-if for no other reason than to keep the murder rate down a few hundred thousand a year, but why do we make it so easy? Again, because we teach our kids and each other that there's no reason to try. You can always find someone else. Why bother with this one? The next one's just over the horizon. We as a country, a culture, a society, have enabled ourselves to "get out BEFORE the going gets tough" , instead of "when the going gets tough, the tough get going". We don't try anymore because it's too unpopular.
Geoff