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| 10/19/09 08:53 PM |
Re: Confusing
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20LastTime, it sounds as if there was not much you could do to help your husband. I'm guessing that he'd likely be in denial (an assumption)
Neither fighting back or submitting to his will would have been the answer. It's up to him to recognise his own issues and then for him to deal with.
Well done for getting out of that relationship. You are still very young, and divorce is so very common these days now that it's become a part of our culture - so rest easy.
I married for the first time when I was 30 and after my wife left me when was 43 I felt the same as you did - I thought I was going to be married for life. I've learned a lot since then and, yes, I'd do things differently next time - definitely communicate more, but it was all meant to happen to bring me to this point in time.
The main thing here is that you've taken responsibility for your own life and made a brave decision. Forget who's to blame, life is too short. Your feelings and doubts are natural but just know that you've made the right decision and are living into a new future.
Best Wishes
Paul