| ZARDOZ |
| (recently joined) |
| 12/03/09 01:40 PM |
Wife hits 40. Leaves all & goes Heavy Metal
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So my wife of 13 years, leaves me, the kids, gives up the house and everything in it. She moves out (year ago this November) with only her belongings. Says that she no longer loves me & that I'm now too old for her (I'm 54 but said to look 46-ish, she's 41).
Once moved out she gets her nose pierced, gets a "Tramp Stamp" tattoo and starts an affair (without protection) with a 37 year old heavy metal nut job she met at the library where she works. He has no job, no car and sleeps on a 'friends' spare sofa. He uses the library's free computers and writes her heavy metal poetry/lyrics. She casually referred to him as her 'sole mate', but ended up dumping him six months later.
While she was with this first guy she rented a room in a house that has two other housemates who turned out to be druggies (she's not). She then met a new guy (patron) at her library. He looks like a very short, low budget Santana. Six months later she moves out of that house and in to an apt with a co-worker's 18 year old daughter and starts sleeping (again without protection) with this new heavy metal character. This one plays heavy metal/rock guitar, is 31 and drives a '90's Honda he calls the "Cougar Mobile" on his Facebook. He drives a forklift in a warehouse.
The divorce papers were finally filed two weeks ago (1 year from the month she left). She signed the papers last December but asked me to wait, until now to file. She gave me everything, the kids, house, her dogs and cats. I lost nothing, except what I thought was my best friend and wife.
I know I have to move on. And for the most part I am. I'd never want her back. That's not the issue.
My question is why do I still care what she does? Is it just male ego because she left me and hooked up with these losers. She rejected all she was and basically fell off (not down) the social ladder? She's become such white trash, which is so strange because she really is smart (136 IQ). I kinda feel she's thrown this "new" her in my face.
So what gives? I've had many girl friends, and several long term relationships. Why do I still have this mild obsession about this one?