| ConfusedDadNH |
| (newbie) |
| 02/25/10 10:49 AM |
Re: Guidance
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Thank you very much Annie (sniffle)..I needed to hear that. I to am an adult child of an alcholic, My Dad won custody of me and my siblings 30 years ago and the wounds are still deep. In a cruel twist of fate history is repeating itself.
My kids are 10,8 and 6 and the older one is keenly aware of his Mon's drinking and "red wine nights" based on some nasty instances that occured and continue to occur. I spoke to my therapist about getting the kids in counsuling but I cannot do that without her consent (I guess its a law), and given that she does not think she has a problem, the best I could do is get recommendations and sit tight. When divorce filing happens the lawyer I spoke with said I could make an expedited request for alcohol treatment for her, and therapy for the kids as immediate steps. My lawyer seems to think i would have very little issue getting primary and legal custody, given my unique circumstances and history.
Everything you said is so true, I copied it my journal so I can go back and read your words whenever I get the feeling of bottomless dread that frequently overtakes me..I think i will be reading it alot in the coming months.
Thank you SO MUCH!