| SweetLight |
| (Pooh-Bah) |
| 02/27/10 10:19 AM |
Re: Guidance
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I'm sorry to hear what you all are going through. Alcoholism is a disease, and once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. There is recovery, but it is ongoing.
You can't make her get into treatment, or make her take any meds. She has to want it for herself, first and foremost.
I'm sorry you and your children are suffering, too. Alcoholism is a very selfish/self-centered disease. Often times, those surrounded by the alcoholic suffer the most.
It's possible you may need her consent to get some counseling for the children. But what about Al-Anon meetings for you? And Al-Ateen meetings for the children that are old enough to participate? I strongly recommend searching for meetings in your area. They are free (they do pass a basket to throw in a buck or two), and VERY helpful.
I got involved in Al-Anon about 5 years ago. The meetings, reading material, tools, and support system are fantastic. My father is an alcoholic, has been in AA for 19 years, and my sister went into AA about 2 1/2 years ago.
Someone over there needs to get better, it may as well be you and your children.
Here's the link to find a meeting near you (remove the space in the w's). Take care and keep your chin up. Things will get better.
w ww.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html