| Debi |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 04/11/10 05:53 PM |
Re: restlessness...
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Great insight Curt. I think I agree that for the most part neither sex knows what they want.
Although I will say that despite being independant, I'm not above being "protected" now and again.
I had to laugh at your sentence aboput women going after "bad boys". I think every woman has done that at least once, but I haven't since my early 20's. I'm much happier with a man who knows who he is already. I don't want anyone I have to change or train. I have kids for that. LOL
I also agree that people tend to go into meeting someone with expectations of what the future may bring. I used to do that too. Now my main objective is "Do we have enough in common to have fun together"? I probably did try to fill a void years ago but I've been divorced for almost 9 years now. There is no void left from my marriage. My relationship with my true love ended 4 years ago, so there is no void there anymore either.
I think you're right about what the guy I dated was doing. The truth was we had so much in common and enjoyed so many of the same things it was scary. We could talk for hours and it felt like 15 minutes. I think he may have been doing what you said and thinking about if he could spend the rest of his life with me. The kids were the roadblock for him, and honestly I think he knew that he "could" have spent the rest of his life with me if not for them. We still talk occasionally and he's not seeing anyone else so obviously that wasn't it.
I guess time will tell if there is anyone left out there. Maybe when my youngest starts kindergarten I'll meet someone's grandpa. We'd probably be about the same age. ;o)