| VanajaGhose |
| (newbie) |
| 07/29/10 10:26 PM |
Re: new here, just seeking some reassurance, maybe
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EndofRope, I wasn't saying that you should forget all the good things. Every past relationship has good in it, and it is normal to remember those good things. My point was that as long as we recognize that the memories are just that -memories - and that the relationship broke down for a reason, and those reasons are also still there. The entire relationship should never be viewed as one big negative experience - because there is always some good, and there is a lot we can learn from it too.
However, what I have found is that sometimes women (and men) will go back to a relationship, remembering only the few good memories and forgetting the negative - only to end up with a break-up down the road again. It's a needless cycle of pain that can only be avoided if both are willing to get some professional help to make the relationship work.