| bacall |
| (enthusiast) |
| 08/13/10 09:35 AM |
Re: Ah....The weight of rejection...
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Dear Curt,
Thanks for your reply. Glad you wrote. Your description of internet "dating" is what I presume it to be. The interesting (or strange, maybe) thing to me is how difficult it is to meet new people -- I don't know if it is an age thing, a work thing (meaning there are some work situations where people meet new people all the time; in my case, it has been the same people for over 10 years), a fear thing, a not being in the right place at the right time thing. I would actually like to just meet/have more friends at this point in my life. I value all the friendships I have (women), but almost 90% of my friends are "happily" married and one ends up feeling last in a long list of people and obligations in their lives. It is the same with me in a sense since I try always to put my family first, but there is a sense of not having anyone of your "own" so to speak -- I don't mean in a sense of ownership, but in a sense of someone knowing you, caring if you got home, planning things with. As time passes, that is probably what I miss the most -- the anchor, so to speak, that marriage graces one with -- even marriages that are not made in heaven and end up badly -- there is a sense of belonging that is very absent when the marriage is over. Maybe not everyone feels this way, but as time goes on, I feel this more than before.
Anyway, as you say, it is probably a good way to meet people. I didn't really think much about people using it as a scam tactic, but I do feel it is something one would need to use caution and good judgment with -- perhaps a much bigger issue for women than men.
Take care, bacall