| Debi |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 01/11/12 09:54 PM |
Re: I'm in a bad place
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Michael,
Things get better with time. No one can tell you how long because everyone is different. Please listen to Pops. Texting her and trying to find answers is not going to work. you've already alluded that you don't believe she started seeing this man after the separation. I'm pretty sure that you know it happened before. That means she was emotionally checked out before you even knew anything was going on. She had time to think about it and distance herself long before you did.
You will make it one day at a time. It sounds like you are doing the right things with counseling and the gym and spending every moment you can with your kids. The rest will come eventually.
I divorced almost 11 years ago. The pain is behind me and I enjoy the life i'm living now. I spent most of that time alone with my kids. I had brief relationships over the years, but until this past year had not found anyone I wanted to spend my life with. What I'm trying to say is that nothing happens overnight but you will find a new normal that works for you. Your first step has to be letting go. Hang in there and keep posting if you need to. There isn't as much traffic here as when I joined this board but there are still good people here.