| Annie7676 |
| (old hand) |
| 05/18/12 06:38 AM |
Well.............
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well you are a guy right? and men are typically attracted to women...after being in a non-intimate, non close marriage for so long its probably pretty normal that you are attracted to a woman who seems to be receptive to you...
but while she may be nice and everything...caution is good and yes you are technically still married so that could be a dilemma. most would say until you are divorced you need to not go there ...but life happens..
i think its human nature for anyone to feel this way especially if the marriage/relationship with our partners was not good...feeling positive vibes from someone makes us feel good, exciting, etc but dont confuse it with the initial l u s t that people feel, that may be too strong a word but coudlnt think of another one
you and your wife probably need to determine what to do about the divorce thing so that you both can move on with your lives, sounds like you worked it out pretty good with the kids on the separation so the divorce may not be that hard
you say she hates you for the things you cant' change, well the door swings both ways and no one is perfect...i am sure there are things she does that are not that acceptable to you ...lets see cheating????...but in any event life moves on
if the marriage is over its over, move on, take care of ending it and start your new life over and hopefully not make the same mistakes again
if your separation allows you to date since its ususally the part before a divorce, then guess you can do that and not feel guilty but if its not a legal one then you will feel guilty and not supposed to do that and if your wife found out how would she react..
probably best to tie up your loose ends first
and then decide what to do
but at the end of the day you probably will make a decision
life is just too short to throw it away on being miserable