| Grace |
| (addict) |
| 09/17/04 08:54 PM |
Re: New Love
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I went through the exact same thing! I was soooo jealous of my ex's first g/f after our separation. In fact, it led us to a reconciliation for about 9 months. It was the WORST 9 months of my life. We were miserable! Our very shaky reconciliation has led to problem after problem in the years that have followed.
I thought that my jealousy had to be a sign that I had made a mistake and really wanted to be with him . . . BOY was I wrong. I was just feeling insecure and that, obviously, is nothing to base a relationship on.
I can't tell you what you feel or what is best for you. All I can do is tell you my experience. In it, getting back with him was my mistake, not divorcing him. It has made eveything else that much more difficult.
My advice. . . think very carefully and don't make any decisions in the 'heat' of jealousy. Go and see a couselor. That did me a world of good. The back and forth thing can really take it out of you.
Good luck and. . .KNOW WHY you separated & KNOW WHY you might want him back. . .these can be deceiving.