| tammy917 |
| (journeyman) |
| 10/09/08 10:14 AM |
Re: given it a shot
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If I may add, don't write off those dating sites just yet. I will say I've met MANY normal guys who are in the same boat you're in... divorced with kids, no interest in the bar scene (as if you would meet someone worthy at a bar anyway?) and want to start dating again. Yes, they may ask you to pay but in my opinion the Match and [censored] sites were worth it.
1. Set standards. I screened the many resposes I got by requiring... that they were AT LEAST a member of an organized religion (athiest/ agnostic didn't get responses), HAD to be divorced (lots of seperated guys just looking to jump back in to a relationship), profiles had to sound humble and not have any spelling errors. Haha, your standards may vary but it's a place to start.
2. Start slow, maybe you don't want to post a pic right away but know that you will get alot more attention with the pic.
3. Feel free to use the first 30 day free option but I think it's worth it to pay for the service. I am friends with many of the normal guys I met even though it may not have worked out as a couple.
4. Yes, there are some guys who post to anyone and everyone. Also some creeps out there, you need to use your radar and common sense to stay safe. Meet at neutral places to begin with, Starbucks, restaurants etc... I NEVER gave my last name/ home phone number to anyone unless I was very comfy with them.
Good luck finding your snuggle buddy!
T