| KiwiGirl |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 12/31/06 08:36 PM |
Re: Proving allienation of a child
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I think you need to stop making excuses for him. Simply say "I don't know." and leave it at that. If she says "dad says you won't tell him when my games are." just tell her that her father is quite big enough to find out the dates himself. But in future you will send a note along as a reminder for her next time with him. Or you and your daughter can put all the info in an envelope and you can take her to the Post Office and she can post it herself.
Actions do speak louder than words.
I think you need to remove yourself from the relationship between your ex and your daughter. If he says negative thimgs that are repeated simply say "I think your dad is confused. I didn't say that." If your daughter is rude to you on the phone, ask her when she comes home why she thinks it is OK to speak like that. She can come up with some answer. Ask her if she would like you to be rude to one of her friends on the phone and refuse to let her talk to them. Turning the situation around to a place where she can relate to the circumstances usually helps.