| Robby9 |
| (recently joined) |
| 09/11/07 11:25 PM |
HELP!! I am at risk of losing my daughter ..
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Hello DS,
I am already prepared to get publicly blasted and roasted by most of you for the post that is about to follow, but please do not judge me. In reality, at this point .. it doesn't really matter because I am about to be in a really serious situation and am seeking any help/advice that I can get. So with that said, here we go.
Last week, the mother of my child informed me that she is planning on moving out of the state (NC) with my child in two months. My daughter will be 3 in March and the mother apparently has been accepted into a new college as the motive behind the move.
As far as my involvement, I know I have been slacking and not doing nearly as much as I should or could for my child. I went after the mother at the beginning of the year to have a Parental Agreement created, but haven't been able to follow through with most of what we agreed upon which has me worried the most right now. The agreement gives me 1 weekend and 1 Saturday each month and time with her on certain holidays (i.e. pu at 1pm and return to mother at 6pm on the particular holiday). Since we created it .. as bad it sounds .. and I know it sucks .. my mother picks up a lot of the slack for me while I am in college right now and working to boot. I haven't been very closely involved, but my mom does pick her up from daycare once each week and keeps her 1 or 2 weekends per month where I get to spend time with her when I am home. I do get my holiday time in with her though as outlined by the agreement. Outside of that, I have child support that I recently arranged to have increased from $55 to $60 to try and do more. The mother does pay 100% for her medical, educational, and living costs though which again worries me in this fight.
So with that said .. I've already said I am not perfect but neither is anyone else. I have messed up and made many mistakes, but I do not want to lose my child as a result of it. Basically, this is where everything stands at this point of my writing:
* I am almost positive she has a lawyer. She keeps sending me everything through certified mail and personally called to arrange a private meeting with me last week to inform me of her plans to move. At the meeting, she said she already has a lease agreement, health insurance, etc. established in the new state and would be giving me some type of proposal prior to her leaving.
* Almost like the next day, I got a letter from court stating she has put in a request for us to return to mediation too concerning our current Parental Agreement. I have 14 days to accept or decline her request.
* I decided to send her an e-mail today letting her know that I moved back on campus last month so she can have my new address. I will also send her a certified letter too with the new address so I can start covering myself.
* Tomorrow just happens to be my birthday and so instead of my mother, I will go and personally pu my child from daycare and spend the evening with her just like it says in the paperwork.
So at this point .. what chance do you all think I have of stopping this woman from leaving? Is the deck stacked up to much in her favor for me to even fight her? Money is not an issue. I will spend whatever I have to in order to fight this in court, but I just scared that I may be walking into a battle that I may already have lost. HELP ME PLEASE!!