| Robby9 |
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| 09/12/07 08:23 AM |
Re: HELP!! I am at risk of losing my daughter ..
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Umm .. so is that good or bad for me??
>>>>>>>>>>>>Mostly bad based on your prior involvement .
<<<<<She seems to think that I am a "holiday dad" and based on the past, I could see why .. but I do love my child. Will the fact that my mother helps out hurt or help me in this department?
Based on the current Parent Agreement, I have *nothing* to attack her on. She has followed it to the T, even with now giving me this notice well in advance. Won't that work to her advantage?
>>>>>>>>>>> No , she's following correct procedure . There's no bonuses for that .
<<<<<Well, my plan now is to definitely start following the Agreement to the fullest, but will doing that now look like I am only doing it based on the circumstances?
Would they really consider her changing colleges as being in the best interests of my child?
>>>>>>>>>>> No idea , depends on how a judge feels.
I feel that there are millions of colleges and plenty right here that she could change to.
>>>>>>>>>>> Your opinion.
And with the new proposed plan she is supposed to be giving me, she said it is basically the same as the current one we have which could be true since like I said, it basically only addressed a few holidays and 1 weekend out of the month which she obviously could still pull off while being in her new state.
>>>>>>>>>>> That's a plus for her as it preserves the existing custodial relationship.
I could argue about me losing time during the summer with her though and during my fall/spring breaks.
>>>>>>>>>>> Then request more time in the summer.
<<<<<But how much time could I really ask for? She will only be 3 by next summer and what happens if the mother decides in enroll in summer courses?
I would like to thank everyone that has responded thus far and been willing to help me in this matter. A few other things that I thought of that I didn't include in my original message are:
* At the end of our meeting last week, I told her I wanted to meet again this past Monday to which she agreed. However, I ended up canceling it earlier that day because I felt I wanted to get some more advice before speaking with her again. Bad or Good?
* Would it be in my best interests to accept this Mediation meeting or just blow it off?
* Another thing I fear is to come is that she will probably try to propose that I cover %100 of my child's airfare since she is covering %100 cost of her health, daycare, living, etc. costs. Can she do that?