| Patrice |
| (addict) |
| 05/20/08 09:01 PM |
Re: Please Any Help; Parent's Possible Divorce
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OKturtle, I think if your dad has been gone a year, you should be trying to go on without him. Your family is now your mother and your siblings, and unless or until he decides to open up to you, he's choosing not to be part of the family. The love and support you have for each other is still there, it just doesn't include him. It's a little bit like he died, but in a way it's harder, and you may someday develop a new but different type of relationship with him. Possibly he'll come back to your mother, but I really don't think you should count on that.
You could make an attempt to talk to your dad. Tell him you just don't understand what's going on. He may be willing to talk, or he may not. You may not like what he tells you though.
I feel for you. I had a son in college when my now ex husband decided he didn't want to be married anymore and it was very shocking for all of the rest of us (everyone but him).
There's really nothing anyone, not your mom, or you, can do if he doesn't want to be married anymore. Sorry that I don't have a more positive outlook. I just think you should try to accept that your family is changing, and unfortunately it's out of your control.