Wow. A long gut wrencher. The marriage appears over. I don't see love or fulfillment on either side. Unfortunately therapy sessions are not always the answer. They tend to villify one or the other, and rightfully so sometimes. No one likes to have their faults pointed out. Men in particular do not like therapists. I do not see cohabitation as a viable resolution. The business has to be split along with home, debts, equity in cars. Your divisional business idea has merit. I suggest a mediated non-contested divorce. You both will be liable for debts and the house may have to take a hit. Maybe you trade a portion of the business for him to have the house. Unfortunately his poor work ethic still gets him half. If you can put in black and white and stand 12-20 revisions and some give and take you can call him out on his "being friends". Do not live in this mess you are better than that. You still are missing a thousand details that need to be seen by a professional. Best of luck. Get a lawyer soon, he could be a step ahead of you. Remember that you can do this nicely if you both choose to do so.
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