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I am sure that it is not the only issue, but take it from me: one of the top ten complaints that women have is that their husbands drink too much and that it is an enormous turn-off. I don't mean the occasional glass of wine or beer when you have dinner with friends, I mean non-social drinking....even worse when non-social drinking comes with a 'only because of you...' message attached.

As a matter of fact, if you do not need alcohol, then try to stay away from the bottle at the weekend and get into a 'father & child quality time'- routine. I remember how I adored spending time with my Dad and going for a walk & just chit-chat, while my mum was doing whatever. It is possible that this will change the quality of your marriage dramatically.

There is no better remedy than taking the request of your partner seriously. This way you will also be in a stronger position to get her to listen to your requests. It is taking and giving....either that or... justifying one's own weaknesses and bad deeds by constantly repeating the weaknesses and failings of your spouse....and I mean this with respect to both of you....it is easy to get into a 'I only do this because he/she ' routine without taking responsibility for one's choices. Both of you have the ability to make the choice to make things better...the wiser one makes the first move.

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