| dante |
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| 04/17/09 07:47 AM |
Re: My account disappeared, but I have more questions
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WDW: I thank you for your response as well. I believe you are right...in looking hard at things, I am coming on far too strong. I am just desperate to save this, fix this, and love my wife again and have her love me back. The sexual aspect, done. That kills me from a relational perspective and the fact that as she becomes "more pregnant", she is filling out in ways that I find massively irresistable, as you can imagine. It doesn't help that she undresses in front of me or hops in the shower with me only to not touch me at all. Again though, I am free to wash her completely. When she exits, I turn the water all the way to the right to it's coldest setting to save myself the anguish.
We have a session tonight in counseling. I am thinking of announcing my intent to back way off and give her as much space as she needs. But, I will also express my feelings that it will not be easy for me any second of the way through any of this..it fact, it'll make it harder.
I know whatever is going on is inside of her. It is HER shortcoming and lack of commitment that has brought us here. Even she admits that. I can't fix her. I hope that she can with help of our therapist. I just want to be a part of the solution and not the ongoing problem.