| suzie71384 |
| (recently joined) |
| 10/21/09 03:00 PM |
Re: Trying so hard to save my marriage
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We've been together for 3 years before the wedding.
Yes he has left and moved back in with his parents.
They'll tell him things like "come to dinner but don't bring your wife." "come to your uncles bbq but dont bring Suzie" "come to your sisters wedding but if you're going to bring Suzie don't bother coming at all" and the answer to all of these from him to them: OK. we've actually had fights over this and his inability to stand up to them and say this is my wife now respect her!
His family wasn't at our wedding. I couldn't stand being with his family anymore so I suggested we take a month break (this was before the wedding) and he begged & begged and said screw you guys to his family and suggested we elope. it was his idea to get married without his family's blessing and i wasn't going to stop him because i had my own family to deal with!
His sister thinks everything I do is just to spite her when reality, I'm living my own life, I'm just being me! I mean no harm to anybody.
We had been talking about marriage before we got engaged (july 08) but his family made him promise (behind my back) that he wouldnt get married before his little sister. When I found out later that they had this conversation with him without me (his fiancee) I was so upset. All the while here I am planning a wedding and his sister & parents would get upset that I was planning a wedding. Nevermind that I never knew of the "promise" they all were holding against my husband.
Now I'm trying desperately to make things better, please them just to stay together but I keep coming up a wall.