| EmC |
| (veteran) |
| 06/19/05 10:41 PM |
Interesting....
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I am just like Spring. When my ex met his SO and they became a family, I called the next Father's Day (as I had continued to take the kids shopping post divorce) and asked her if I should or if she intended to. I did it previous because there was no one else to do it. Now, she does it and it is something that the kids enjoy.
Now...Susan...sigh....as a BM (remember, I am one too...), I respect my ex's SO and her role. BTW...looking back, I sent the book report to the skids' BM (because sson got 100% on his very first book report and thought she too might enjoy seeing it) so chances are better than not that is how she knew he would enjoy it. Know him? Hardly or else she would know he loves the Dollar Store gifts and it is the highlight of the morning hearing why each child bought what. Know him? Hardly...she bought a book about his favorite sport, which 99% of his casual wear supports "his" team, so you would have to be BLIND not to know he likes this sport. Know him? Hardly....or else she would know that picking out a gift and signing the card for the kids is not what he likes. Know him? Hardly...or else she would realize that he would rather get NOTHING before having a child's feelings hurt.
You realize that my sson realized he had the book IMMEDIATELY upon seeing my husband open it. There was no time to cover. He was so upset and so was my sd. I didn't do that. Their mom did by trying to insinuate herself where she had no business. We assured him it was okay and it was the thought that counts, but since they are used to OUR tradition and the thought that goes into our gifts (not the money), he was heartbroken.
AND keep in mind, I didn't call her. She called me. I did thank her for the sentiment initially, but when she called ME out for taking them to the Dollar Store, I was honest and answered her questions directly.
You and your ex are civil. This woman is not. That is a whole different scenario and you know it. But given your stance, when he does remarry, you will be in for an adjustment when you are no longer the woman in his life.
AND you forget that five kids got their feelings hurt by her actions. Isn't that what should really be the most important thing????? We were just going to let it go....she made the issue.