| Debi |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 06/19/05 10:59 PM |
Just curious
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Did she know about your tradition? Last year I volunteered to take my SO's kids shopping for Father's Day since they hadn't gotten him anything for his birthday and he was very hurt. I was snubbed when I made the suggestion (his x pretended I didn't offer and took the kids shopping on her own), so this year I didn't offer. You guessed it. Not even a card. I have no problem with his x taking the kids shopping or even picking something out as long as they recognize their father. I'm not taking sides on this at all, because I leave it to my x's wife to shop for him either with or without the kids. It's her job if she wants him to have more than the kids homemade cards and gifts (which I treasure and don't need anything else.) I think some people just like to remind the current wife that they were there once upon a time. Silly in my opinion since I don't even want to claim that I ever knew my x much less was married to him. (we all know THAT story though)
I think your tradition is a great one. I do the same thing for Christmas. No matter how hard you try though, you can't be exactly like an intact family because you're not one. I'm not trying to be mean but both sets of kids have another parent and you can't control how that other parent operates. You can only control how you deal with each situation. As for the comment your skids made about your H not being your kids dad, kids are territorial. My SO does more for and with my kids than their own dad ever has, but his son reminds them every now and then that my SO is HIS dad, not theirs. I'm sure when we live togther it will happen more often. Especially since my kids will be with him more than his.
You have to take everything with a grain of salt because if you don't you are allowing her way more than she deserves.