| jsp |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 05/02/07 10:19 PM |
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal
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I worry about my husband's kids but nothing can be done about it now. Mom takes up with best friend while dad got shipped for a year to Korea. They run of his wife, abuse his kids who are sent to mom via child welfare - dad comes back, move cross country lying to dad that no cheating happened - mom finally admits it, moves back cross country with boyfriend - lots more drama with mom who shuts dad out only wanting money and boyfriend is barely a father to his children (one deceased now) but helps with my husband's kids... humm... just a few worries - marriage, family values-value of fathers and other relatives, secrets (lots of them)....uggg... what a shame, but nothing you can do.
It clearly has impacted the kids - the oldest, 23 should have graduated college last spring on a full ride but somehow blew it and only goes part-time and has only gotten through about half way. At one point she had to very steady boyfriends - her home boyfriend and her college boyfriend - takes after mom as neither knew about each other for a long time. The middle one is 22 and done nothing but work at a store and piss away his money (at least save it if you are still living with mom) and the cute youngest who is a clone of my husband - I doubt he'll have much of a future as child support will stop at 18 and mom is using the money probably to pay for the oldest's school so as usual the youngest will get screwed given he has no relationship with dad and mom will not sacrifice for the kids benefit.