| Debi |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 03/05/12 06:59 PM |
Not sure how to handle this.
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This morning I got a text from my 14yo (that she sent last night but I was already in bed) saying " Do you think you could give me 15 or 20 $ a month for helping you out or doing whatever you need me to do so I can get a new phone? SM said she will pay 20 if you do and it's ok with you."
The problem is it's NOT ok with me and SM already knew that as we had this conversation last week .Actually the conversation we had went something like this. SM- "S is mad because L's phone is costing about 60.00 a month (she has a track phone) and I am not adding her to our cell phone contract because when it expires we are getting our phones under our business". My response was "L should make at least 35.00 a month babysitting for your grand daughter, tell S to get her a phone from Cricket. If that doesn't work then put in a landline and forget the cell phone".
I have had a long standing rule that not only will NONE of my kids be on my cell plan, I will not pay a bill for them. D 17 just got a phone last spring when she had a job and could pay the bill. X and his wife made the decision to get other 2 girls phones a few years ago knowing how I feel. I know other people feel that teens need a cell phone. I do not feel that my kids "need" one. It's a want.
I don't feel as if I should have had to have the conversation with my daughter where I said "Not going to happen" because SM already knew my feelings. (as did x) Now I am the bad guy and she's mad at me for saying no. Another problem is she will not do anything around the house without first acting as if she is Cinderella and a multitude of child labor laws are being broken if she is asked to do ANYTHING including picking up after herself (which I pointed out to her)Who needs the extra stress?
My thought right now is to call X and let him know that i'm not happy with this being put on the table to our daughter with out he and I having a conversation, especially since his wife already knew my feelings. Any thoughts?