| Cassie23 |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 03/16/12 11:06 AM |
Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you...
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And it’s a-ok if Cassie says “I would not do it again” - in reference to her situation of getting involved & marrying a man with plenty of divorce drama that has lasted for years and continues. It’s ok for some people to say things, but not others. If you are happy in your marriage more power to you. What you consider “happy” may not be the same for someone else though.
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What I wrote was I wouldn't choose to do it again. Meaning IF I was single currently or in the future I would NOT date/marry someone with a kid because it took a lot out of me- mentally, emotionally and physically.
I did not mean if I were to re-do my life again would I choose the same path. I cannot imagine not having what I do have with my children and H. We have a good life- not perfect, but I do believe I am a FAR better person because I married a man with a child and I learned that love was NOT just based on blood. I am now considering adopting a child. NOT a baby, but a child and do not think I would have ever considered doing that if I didn't live the life I have. I say "I" because H has already decided he wants to.
I do remind people who marry those with children already how difficult it is. I also tell people, more specifically friends and family, that being a parent is the MOST difficult job in the world! I wish my parents would have prepared me for it. That you need to be emotionally, mentally and financially prepared. I now make sure my children understand the DEPTH in parenting and choosing to become a parent.
Regardless, I talk about MY situation- that's all I know. I don't assume people are unhappy or happy in their relationships. I do think sometimes the way people word things it seems as though they are jealous/envious of others. I just don't get that...