| kemahapalew |
| (journeyman) |
| 02/12/07 08:27 AM |
Re: Whoa!
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When I came on this site I did not ask to be judged...who are you to judge me when you have no idea who I am as a person? Like I said before you don't understand the dynamics of a relationship or for that matter a person..only what is told to you. The violence has never been in front of my children and has happened 3 times in our marriage. It hasn't been Beating issues or anything that severe...just enough that I won't deal with that crap from anyone. He's been gone for 3 1/2 years on and off. The abuse that i'm struggling with is the emotional abuse and the psychological which has never been the immauturity of calling eachother names in front of people or the kids..this has never been towards these children, they're in the dark because I've protected them. I am not an abused woman in the way that I just sit back and take it. There are so many women out there who are in much worse situations because their self-esteem is next to nothing. All situations are at different degress and it depends on the individual and what and how much they will tolerate. Again..you don't understand the dynamics..you only assume you know what you're talking about. I am not making excuses..i am trying to show the true dynamics although impossible.
You have made mistakes...guaranteed...why don't you become vulnerable and tell us what you've done that will allow others to judge you? Or Almostheaven..are you perfect. I love my children and regardless of if I had hopes that my husband would get the help he needed because there was hope there..a lot of hope, my children are well-adjusted happy children because I am there for them for everything. Which is more then alot of parents out there, struggling with much deeper issues then me. I don't have issues like an alcoholic, and I didn't come from an abusive family. I've never taken a drug in my life and I was never molested as a child. I don't struggle with deep issues..i just made a mistake with the person I chose out of loving him.I have made my mistakes in my life as everyone..but I will not consider my fifth child a mistake..only an insensitive, desencitized person like you would do that. And yes that is what I see..change your name "almostheaven" to "almosthell" because that's the kind of person you come acrossed as. A demon. You're advice was worthless and full of pompous all-knowing crap. You get your jollies venting to people you don't even know to bring them down as low as you. Get help..you need desperate counceling. There...there's my five minutes of lowering myself to be like you.