| MamaKitty |
| (Pooh-Bah) |
| 02/21/06 03:25 PM |
Re: Need advice
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No advice, as I'm in the same position as you. It's hard being with a controlling person where it doesn't matter so much what you do as it does that you do it when they want you to.
No joke- one time he left us because the children's books were on the dining room table... which meant the house was filthy. Of course it had just been cleaned, and books on a table may be messy but certainly not dirty, but it didn't matter. Because they'd been there for weeks, the house was filthy. When I pointed out that they were library books that had been checked out 2 days earlier (and were date-stamped), it didn't matter.
Or another example- after I'd made dinner (I make everything from scratch), and served it, I'd bring the dishes into the kitchen, rinse them and leave them in the sink until later. I'd then start getting the bratties to bed- putting jammies on, brushing teeth and reading books... not good enough. Even though I was going to be the one washing the dishes after I'd got the bratties to bed, he wanted the dishes done immediately- putting the kids off while I washed the dishes. He didn't offer to get the bratties off to bed while I was washing dishes, or wash dishes while I was putting the bratties to bed- no, the dishes had to be washed by me right then while the bratties waited, otherwise everything was dirty. I'm talking the difference between washing the dishes at 9pm instead of 8pm.
I've had exactly the same thing happen with regards to telephone calls.... he'd say he'd watch them while I did laundry or worked in the garden...didn't even tell me he was on the phone, and left the kids in the bath, the car, running in the street, you name it. He couldn't just say 'hey, I'm on the phone, could you watch the bratties for a minute?'
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
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Sounds like you've got your sh^t together as far as school and work... good for you.