I would like to share some of my experience with you. First, I fell for the "you can't afford the house" cr@p. I moved into a one bedroom apt. w/3 kids because of it.... My current (and final) DH....his ex (having been through divorce before)...kept the house and he had to make 1/2 the payment while she lived there and they split the equity once it was sold. My ex also bullied me into 50/50 (so he wouldn't have to pay CS) even though he made twice as much as me and his schedule didn't allow for him to actually have the kids 50/50...more like 20/80. I didn't ask for anything because he made me feel guilty..."if I have to pay you off, I'll have to sell the boat and the kids love the boat...are you so selfish to want them to loose the boat?" I drove 15 miles each way to take them to school because we both agreed that they shouldn't have to disrupt everything in their lives.....fine....up until he rented the house and moved to a house him and his GF bought...then he wanted to change schools.....I didn't go for it and fought it and won. Then I went back and got custody and CS and $20,000. To this day he thinks I am a mean biotch, but I worked as hard as him in those 9.5 years of marriage...I deserved something. Point of my story....do not let him intimidate you.
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