| Gecko |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 02/22/06 12:29 PM |
Re: Need advice
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With only a 5 year marriage and you gainfully employed, you will not qualify for spousal support.
The equity in the marital home LESS your original investment is subject to equitable distribution. The equity in the business LESS his original investment is subject to equitable distribution. If you want to stay in the home, you trade your share of equity in the business for his share of equity in the house.
If either of you have a 401(k), you are each entitled to 50% of what has accumulated during the course of the marriage.
The beer issue...you're making too much of it. I was once like you...getting all jacked up because our daughter was trying to take of drink of BEER, but then I realized that it wasn't about the BEER because she did the same thing with whatever anyone was drinking...water, ice tea, coffee, Pepsi...didn't matter. It was simply a child's natural curiosity. Also, if he were drinking a 6-pak every night by himself I would be concerned, but not if he's only having 3 beers.
My ex was a lot like your STBX...dinner on the table by 6pm, the house clean regardless of three small children, short fuse, thought I did nothing but watch soap operas all day (I was a SAHM), whatever he wanted when he wanted it AND he drank a HELL of a lot more than split 6-pak every night. And like you, I was the one who took "care" of our children the majority of the time.
"Obviously" NOT a person you would want taking care of YOUR children, but guess what...that all changed because I was no longer around. He LEARNED to be a caring, temperate and responsible father. No he doesn't do it the way I "think" it should be done, but then again...I don't do things the way he "thinks" they should be done either.