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Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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The baby's mom called today and said that she will leave the state with the baby if we don't drop the petition for custody. Our lawyer said to keep the recorded convo but at this time nothing can be done because my husband's name is not on the BC so at this time he is not legally the dad. He said that if she leaves state before court that will count as a no show and my husband could be granted custody. Is this true?
She is also accusing my husband of doing drugs. He has had the same job for almost 4 years and they do random drug hair folical testing. In 4 years, he has had 3 test and they all came back negative. The last test was about 8 months ago. My husband's lawyer is sending my husband for a hair folical drug test so we can use the negative results in court. Do you think this will help?
She took drugs while pregnant and we have a recorded conve with her stating that. The attorney is also requesting a drug test on her in court but that doesn't mean the judge will order one. I hope he does. She was arrested for stealing perscription drugs from her neighbor about 2 years ago. She spent 30 days in rehab. She was also charged with possession and that's why my husband broke up with her. She is still on probation for the possession charges. Do you think this will help with the attorney's request for drug testing?
Sorry I keep bothering everyone.
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Gecko
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(Carpal \'Tunnel)
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02/23/07 07:01 PM
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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He said that if she leaves state before court that will count as a no show and my husband could be granted custody. Is this true?
---> Yes. She can also be held in contempt...fined and jailed for removing the child from the jurisdiction of the court.
My husband's lawyer is sending my husband for a hair folical drug test so we can use the negative results in court. Do you think this will help?
---> Best to pull the wind from her sails.
She was arrested for stealing perscription drugs from her neighbor about 2 years ago. She spent 30 days in rehab. She was also charged with possession and that's why my husband broke up with her. She is still on probation for the possession charges. Do you think this will help with the attorney's request for drug testing?
---> Yes...it shows that there is cause for concern.
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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Thank you, Gecko! I read your post to my husband and it made us both feel a lot better.
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Moi
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(old hand)
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02/23/07 09:03 PM
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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Ditto to everything Gecko said :-)
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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Thank you, Moi!
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KiwiGirl
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(Carpal \'Tunnel)
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02/24/07 09:53 AM
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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How old is this BM? She sounds incredibly young. Oh and stupid.
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Gecko
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(Carpal \'Tunnel)
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02/24/07 10:22 AM
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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She's not really "stupid" per se Kiwi. Our society and the courts have for too long, granted single [unmarried] mothers absolute authority and control and to be honest...[formerly] married mothers had similar.
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She is almost 23. To me she does seem a little on the slow side. She had very poor grades in school and her parents have to help her with everyday things like cooking, laundry, etc. She does not know how to cook and wash clothes at almost 23 years old. She has also admitted that her mom gives the baby baths because it's to much of a hassle and that she would never remember the baby's doc appointments if her mom didn't remind her. My hubby suggested writing them on a calender and she said "why bother if my mom reminds me". Her mom also gets up with the baby at night and in the morning because she refuses to wake up. She said she is to tired because she usually stays up until 2 or 3. My husband suggested going to sleep earlier and she said for him to mind her own business. To me she needs to grow up!
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Gecko
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(Carpal \'Tunnel)
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02/24/07 11:20 AM
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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If her mother does everything for her...is that HER fault or her Mom's fault? And if she is "challenged"...is that really her "fault"?
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(old hand)
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02/24/07 11:38 AM
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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And someone like that, whether it be spoiled or challenged is NOT going to leave the state....at least not for long. I wouldn't worry about that.
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It is her mother fault for allowing her to be lazy and her fault for being lazy. I don't know if she is technically challenged, if she is it would make things easier because then we would know why she acts this way and know she has a reason for acting this way that is not her fault. Most of it is her being lazy and spoiled!
Another question I have is what to do about getting things to the baby? She said that she doesn't want my husband near the baby. My husband bought 3 large packs of diapers, 6 packs of wipes, 6 gallons of water for bottles, 2 teethers, 2 tubes of creamy destin, 5 rattles, 2 cans of formula, and 4 outfits with some of our tax money. He wants to take the stuff and drop it off on her closed-in porch but we are afraid she might say that we are harrassing her because she said that she will tell the judge that we harrass her if we show up there. We know that she is saying we don't help support the baby and we don't care. We do it for the baby, not to show support for court. We think the baby deserves my husbands support because he might be his son. We don't even care if it counts as support. Should we drop off the stuff?
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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We worry about her moving out of state because her favorite uncle and cousin live out of state and she has talked about that in the past.
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Re: Don't mean to keep bugging everyone!
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We went ahead and dropped the stuff off. She finally emailed us around 7 pm and said it was ok. He left everything right inside of the door on the front porch. She stood in the doorway of the house staring at him with her arms crossed.
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