| Mav8348 |
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| 07/18/08 11:47 AM |
Should I let go...
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I can not even believe that I am writing this. Its like a nightmare gone wild. My ex and I have been devorced now for 10 years. Had two choldren both girls. They have lived with her and I have had visitation. There have been numerous issues with the girls education, safty and general well being. Childrens agencies have been involved but my ex cleans up her act the agencies leave and it all starts again.
The girls have bounced back and forth over the years one time wanting to live with me and the next wanting to live with mom. Nothing that in divorce that is not normal. I told them though the last time that they said that they wanted to live with me and then at the last min said no that this would be it one more time and I am done.
The Courts ordered evluations and we are in the process. The girls have been assigned an advocate..
A week ago both girls came to me and told me that they no longer want anything to do with me. They said that they told there advocate this. I told them ok and now they are mad at me for doing what I said that I was going to do in first place.
Family and friends tell me that I am crazy for giving up and letting her have them lock stock and barrel.
This whole thing just realy stinks... I love those kids very much but if they don't want to be with me what should one do?
thanks for your help
| icwal |
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| 07/19/08 10:13 PM |
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Re: Should I let go...
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I guess my first question is how old are they? Not that it is easy for kids to go through a divorce at any age but the problems are different. My kids are all over 17 and my oldest has been pretty much a jerk since I filed last year and I pretty much wrote him off. It sucks because we were so close up until then and he was also close to my family and everyone has pretty much wrote him off. He is 22 and in my opinion he knows whats right and wrong. Without going into details I am not fighting my X over him, hell he is 22 years old. I know its hard for you but the games get old after a while.
You might want to post in the general forum - more people will be able to give you advice.
| 4inchalla |
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| 11/02/08 10:43 PM |
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Re: Should I let go...
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I suggest doing research on things like PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). Some people claim it doesn't exist, but I disagree. Anyway, what I did was got a copy of "Divorce Poison" and read it. There were some good tips on how to fight to get or keep your child(ren)'s love. Also, ways to cope when they don't want anything to do with you. You might be able to borrow it from your local library for free. If not, I think it's around $15. I bought a copy for my daughter's therapist, and am ordering one now for my new lawyer.