| naive_no_more |
| (newbie) |
| 01/24/10 07:58 AM |
Husband has both my son and daughter in bed
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My husband and I share custody 50/50 ( I just filed for full)He was falling asleep on the couch at night and they were putting themselves to bed (in the same bed-they do have seperate rooms). when I complained, he than started putting them to bed at night with him, taking turns on who sleeps in the middle. My youngest (boy) said he woke up with his sisters bare ass touching him (she is a girl and sometimes takes her pants off in the middle of the night due to sweating) I have now complained to my (soon to be X) H that they do not belong in bed together and certainly not with him. He just fights me on everything, he says (lost of kis sleep with their parents) he sees nothing wrong with it. He says he will fix the sleeping situation as I told him I no longer want the children sleeping at his house except everyother weekend, he refuses this and there is no custody other than verbal at this time (I did file for full but he will fight me til the end). He also allowed our 8 year old to get locked out of the house in an unheated sunroom for a period of 1 - 2 hours (we're still debating the time line) when it was freezing outside. My little boy said to me " I was scared Mommy, I thought I was gonna die, I was soooo cold. My husband says he wasn't out there as long as two hours (doesn't he understand the danger of even one minute of a child unnatended and locked out of the home) and that it was at least 50 degrees. He again, sees that this one incindent is no big deal and says it won't happen agian. I don't trust that but what can I do. He is so manipulative and make himself sound good no matter what. HELP!!!!
| warrenwhite |
| (newbie) |
| 01/24/10 12:26 PM |
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Re: Husband has both my son and daughter in bed
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You can file for emergency custody at your county clerks office. Try to have any documents to support your accusations. Because there is just a verbal custody issue, he or you can take the kids at any given time without the other parents knowledge. Trust me on this one. You don't have to have a lawyer to do this. If you feel your kids are in danger or you are concerned, when you file for emergency custody, and go before the referee or judge, you can request supervised visits.
Good Luck
Time is a terrible thing to waste.
| naive_no_more |
| (newbie) |
| 01/24/10 02:54 PM |
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Re: Husband has both my son and daughter in bed
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I have tried to get him to let me have the kids for two of his overnights and he flat out refused, so I threatened him about the emergency custody and he supposedly now has filed it against me. I feel so helpless, I can't just grab the kids and force them to stay with me, he'll just pick them up at school???? How do other woman get thier children, I don't understand how they do it
| rbellabella |
| (recently joined) |
| 01/29/10 01:21 AM |
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Re: Husband has both my son and daughter in bed
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Take the kids and move, screw child support. The way other women get their children is to run. It's all verbal right now. Grab the children, file for full custody and lay low. When the dust settles, perhaps you can work something out. Formality is the key. He can take your kids just as easily as you can. Whoever gets custody first wins. Clean up, get focused, get angry, get dedicated and get ready for mounds of paperwork and major hassles--if he wants to step up and be a parent he will do the work to ensure their safety and support. He will cooperate and be available. Most of the time, in my limited experience, it is a power play and not about the kids--if it is, it will blow over soon and you can enjoy single parenting without drama.
Really....what is better..the fighting, the drama, the part-time sorta involved parent..or a healthy shared commitment...or just one parent...
As for co-sleeping, we are breaking our son of snuggle time..it's hard. When I was a single mom co-sleeping gave me comfort and him too.
Being locked outdoors, if I had a dollar for everytime my mom forgot me....teach him to kick in a window. Once I did that, my mother never forgot to leave me a key ever again.
Sorry if this seems raw and to the point...been there, done that..still doing it...
| finz |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 01/30/10 01:23 PM |
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Re: Husband has both my son and daughter in bed
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Tell your daughter to wear underpants.
Tell your son my boys idea of heaven is 8 hours on a mountain skiing......stop whining about 2 hours in 50 degree weather.
Try to focus on the issues that are truely dangerous to the kids.