| Tractor |
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| 01/16/11 10:00 PM |
Is this ok behavior?
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Looking to find out if this is something that I have the place to be concerned about.
My future X wife and I have been married for 11 years. We dated for 10 years before then. We were high school sweethearts. We have 2 kids together. We have been growing apart for the last couple of years and had our list of problems that needed to be addressed.
In April of 2010 she text me one morning and told me that life was too short and if I was so unhappy I should leave. That weekend I packed and left. I thought we were trying to work things out but she did not want to discuss it or go to counseling. I found out that she had a guy friend that has now become her live in boyfriend as about about July. The month before our seperation she had 5500 text and 95% of them were to him. When she left she had 0 debt. I took responsibility for everything and she left the marrige with very little.
We get along alot better now then we were married and the divorce should be final this month. She has been very open to me about her new relationship. She has told me that they now have over 20K in debt that she has incuerred in about 7 months, he has received a second DUI and has now lost his lisence, job, and is on weekend arrest. He has to report for a couple weekends. She says she is still wants to be with him. I have not moved on and still have desires to be with her. At this point I would probably still take her back and fix her life. But she does not want that from me.
The problem I am having at this point is do I have the right to be mad about the situation this puts my two kids in?
Thanks
| DedicatedDad |
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| 01/17/11 08:33 PM |
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Re: Is this ok behavior?
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Where do the kids live? Don't tell me you moved out and rarely see them.....
| Tractor |
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| 01/17/11 09:39 PM |
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Re: Is this ok behavior?
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Nope. I moved out and left her and the kids in the house so they would not be put out of place. I moved back into the home after she decided she did not want to live there and have the responsibility of the home. She got an apartment in July and has the kids M-F I have had them every weekend since April the 11th. Just not sure the environment that they are in M-F is a nuturing one. At their age the are very impressionable and I wonder if this will have long lasting negative effect on their lives.
| yregna |
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| 01/25/11 06:23 PM |
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Re: Is this ok behavior?
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I'd try to get custody of the kids...
| TampaAttorney |
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| 04/08/11 11:54 AM |
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Re: Is this ok behavior?
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Go for custody, get a competent attorney that will play hard ball. You need a tenacious attorney that is not afraid to take it to the court.