| EmC |
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| 06/27/05 12:32 PM |
Baseball game and oh-so-much more.....
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BM bailed on the b-ball game and told the kids it was "too last minute" for her to deal with. Her husband then told the skids that mommy should have checked with us first (and of course he found out to late to take them himself) and that next time, mommy will better coordinate it. i guess she was very unhappy and as my sson says, "She was talking very loudly to him and telling him to back out (back off maybe????)"
We are back to the child care debate. I posted that her mom asked for an increase equal to what we already pay. We said no. We could put them in camp cheaper. Well, BM finally fessed up that she gets her money back because on Friday, at the last minute, they went to their cousins house. So my husband didn't pick them up at her mom's and when he went by, no one was there. So he was just going to pay her today. BM calls, freaking out on Saturday, because she needs her money back to cover a check. Since we didn't pay her mom, she had no choice but to call and fess up.
After much thought and deliberation, and a little legal advice, we revisited our court order, which states her mom will do child care for free for both parents. We forgot about that little tidbit until she kept going on and on about how it says "we have to pay 50% of her childcare too". <We have the holiday's on the fridge so we don't have to get out the whole order often.> It was actually part of the deal for her getting a break in child support. so I think my husband is going to offer to buy 100% of their groceries for her mom each week and that is it. We will cover breakfast and lunch and it is up to BM to cover her time. For three kids, it will be about what we are paying her anyway, but that way, no money is switching hands, yet we are helping her out. If she doesn't like it, we will go strictly by the CO and she does it for free.
She really should have kept her mouth shut. neither of us would have remembered that little tidbit!
| Debi |
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| 06/27/05 12:43 PM |
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I think the grocery idea is a good one. Then it won't be a hardship on Grandma if she is on a limited income, but BM won't be able to scam her way into getting the money. I'm curious though......how is it that someone who isn't a party to the divorce or custody can be ordered to do something for free in his orders? Did she volunteer and that's how it got put in there?
That's a bad position for a person to get themselves into
| EmC |
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| 06/27/05 02:54 PM |
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Yes, she agreed. It saved her daughter about three grand a year in child support. So, of course, she agreed.
Honestly, we didn't mind paying, but you know, you just feel taken advantage of all the time dealing with her daughter. Hell, she takes advantage of her own mother! Like she wouldn't us!
| mommynurse |
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| 06/27/05 03:00 PM |
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What a wicked web we weave when at first we practice to deceive (I'm sure that I misquoted, but you get the picture).
I hope her check bounced......
| Debi |
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| 06/27/05 03:25 PM |
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Yeah, well not everyone would agree to that, so I guess that's what surprises me. My mom runs a home daycare and has since I was 5. When my x and I were married we paid her to watch our kids and when we divorced that didn't change. We were each ordered to pay half of daycare and I can guaruntee you I didn't get a break. The most of one I ever got is if I was short one week she'd let me pay her the balance the following week along with the NEXT payment. As a matter of fact she was probably harder on me than anyone else! Of course X always thought I got a break, because he and his parents are devious enough to pull something like that. As a matter of fact I'm not completely convinced that after my mom moved and we started having a friend of his wife's babysit I wasn't paying more than half the bill. I'll never know though.
| TGSM |
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| 06/27/05 03:34 PM |
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I would remind the BM of the original order...let her figure out how to pay her mother. She already gets a big break on child support...what a greedy witch!