| arvm |
| (journeyman) |
| 06/23/08 07:58 PM |
Arghhh! The day I've had.
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Just a little whiney vent.
I'm sad because I gave notice at my full-time job today. I love and appreciate my bosses. Really, they're great people, so it was hard to quit them but my life's changing quite a bit right now and I've got to do what's best for me.
So what is best for me? Becoming a SAHM. Yep, that's right, I'm taking the plunge into working from home. Only part-time work at that, so it'll be almost as if I've retired.
That part of my day went good.
So here's my vent. The X MIL#2 emailed. Out of the blue. It's been a year since her last email. Basically, she was accusing me of withholding info about my son from them, and saying I don't send them any pictures (but they get some from the X which I send every 3 months). She goes on to say they're part of his life whether I like it or not,etc. I have a couple of problems with this.
Number one, I don't have their address to send any pictures to, and I'm not that computer savy so I don't email pictures to anyone.
Number two, why hasn't she emailed before now if she wanted to know anything about him?
Number three--its not like this woman is my friend, why would I think to email her? At any time. Seriously. But this directly relates to my problems with absentee BP whining about their lack of relationship with their child. Ugh, whatever.
I emailed her back and asked her to continue to email me if she wanted to know about my son and that I would respond. Not blame me for her lack of communication.
| Relayer |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 06/23/08 09:41 PM |
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Re: Arghhh! The day I've had.
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She has no beef if they are going to her own kid and he is not forwarding them.
| Spring |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 06/23/08 10:49 PM |
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Re: Arghhh! The day I've had.
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Well...gee. "Witholding information" sounds a bit much. Has she asked you for anything you haven't provided? Is there something in writing that sets out anything you are supposed to provide? I think she sounds a bit dramatic.
Do they see your child? If so, do they have a camera? I think her email would have bugged me too.
You did the right think by inviting her to email you...put the ball squarely in her court. I wouldn't have said anything about her blaming yu for anything...people like that have already decided your to blame without (what appears to be) any justification.
Congrats at becomming a SAHM :-)
| BB1 |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 06/24/08 05:33 AM |
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Re: Arghhh! The day I've had.
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If someone accused me of withholding pictures of my kids, they'd be way on target. I am and always have been THE absolute worst for not sitting around cutting pictures (mainly school pics) and getting them off to friends/family. I mean THE worst ever!
All she had to do is say Arvm, would you mind sending us pics of our grandson? That's it. She didn't need to try to make you feel badly. Something probably triggered the email, like she saw her son, asked about her grandson, he said something, and ta da...you were the hot topic for about 15 minutes and therefore got the nasty email. I likely would not even have responded to her, would have looked her addy up on line and mailed her a picture or 5.
| arvm |
| (journeyman) |
| 06/24/08 01:30 PM |
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Re: Actually,
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there's nothing in my CO that says I have to be in contact with the X's family. It only requires me to put X's name on paperwork for a contact for school or daycare stuff. Seriously, the only thing in my CO says to send pictures every 3months to the X. Other than X's weekly phone calls to son (which have never taken place) or his visitation schedule (which have never taken place), there's really nothing in my CO. Just that we can revisit it when my son is 5. In court, the Judge actually warned X that if he didn't exercise his visitation per his schedule he would have even less visitation at the next hearing.
I've only met this woman once, I found her to be irritating then (but then I was p'ssed at the world during that time). So my memory could be clouded. Basically, her other 2 emails were similar to this last---"you never tell us anything, you never call. You're keeping us from him." X has never even asked or written anything about my son. Nothing. Just a monthly check. No communications, no arranging for visitation--nothing. So, I'm kind of appalled by his mother's email.
I should just let it go. But, good Lord it irritates me.
| MTmom |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 06/24/08 01:33 PM |
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Block her email address. Do not respond.
That will effect her far more than a snarky response. :)
Continue on as you have been... and put her out of your mind.
| Spring |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 06/24/08 04:12 PM |
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After reading your last post...I'm inclined to agree with MTmom. The woman sounds like she wants to just play victim. She doesn't really even sound that interested in your son. Its almost like she's more interested in causing problems. The father sounds like a moron...and its HIM they should realy be going through, IMO.
At the end of the day, it really comes down to whats best for your child. I am all for the more family the better, but I am leary of this woman.