| gr8Dad |
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| 04/27/12 12:07 PM |
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WTF has become of society? Couple goes to a ball game, player tosses a ball into the stands, couple catches it, three year old NEXT to them strats crying, and THEY are painted as the bad guys because they didn't GIVE the ball to the child. WTF!?!
Having just returned from a cruise where over 800 kids seemed to think the ship was THEIRS, I have to wonder WHY you would meets the UNREASONABLE desires of a 3 year old because he CRIED? WTF does that teach them, "Hey, want something, just CRY, you will get it..."
| spinnerdegrassi |
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| 04/27/12 12:22 PM |
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I would have turned and told the kid....that's what you get for being a Rangers Fan.
| Gecko |
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| 04/27/12 12:48 PM |
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WTF has become of society? Couple goes to a ball game, player tosses a ball into the stands, couple catches it, three year old NEXT to them strats crying, and THEY are painted as the bad guys because they didn't GIVE the ball to the child. WTF!?!
WTF does that teach them, "Hey, want something, just CRY, you will get it..."
---> Your statement would be appropriate IF he had received the ball WHILE he was crying, but he didn't.
---> I agree that the reaction, by people, was over the top...just as is your reaction is calling the boy 'spoiled' just because he was crying.
| gr8Dad |
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| 04/27/12 01:03 PM |
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"---> Your statement would be appropriate IF he had received the ball WHILE he was crying, but he didn't."
He recieved the ball BECAUSE he was crying, the timing is moot.
"...just as is your reaction is calling the boy 'spoiled' just because he was crying."
So a child crying when they do not get something is NOT an indicator of a child being "spoiled"?
| elliesmom |
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| 04/27/12 01:04 PM |
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I have to agree with Gecko - a 3 year old crying because he didn't get a ball is a totally normal reaction and in no way indicates the child is spoiled.
Grown ups acting as though a 3 yo crying is the end of the world? Not so much.
I don't have any kids in that 2-3 window right now, but when they were they cried for no good reason. Because I didn't give in then, they are perfectly functional 4 and 6 year olds who don't throw tantrums and don't expect to get their way. But not giving in at that time meant dealing with some serious bad behavior and NOT REWARDING IT.
Sounds like the kid didn't get the ball until long after he forgot about it and the only people who really felt better were the grownups. Whatever. Not shocking to anyone who has been to a little league game lately - we know who the game is ACTUALLY about.
Edited to add:
I read that the child's father has given a statement that the couple was unfairly demonized. So it doesn't sound like he felt his child was entitled to the ball.
| Gecko |
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| 04/27/12 03:52 PM |
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He recieved the ball BECAUSE he was crying, the timing is moot.
---> Wrong...timing is everything.
So a child crying when they do not get something is NOT an indicator of a child being "spoiled"?
---> No...it's NORMAL. But then again, we are talking about THREE-YEAR child.
| zoolife31 |
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| 04/27/12 10:43 PM |
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I was just complaining about this. My issue was the sportscaster flaming the couple saying that they were flaunting the ball in front of the kid. I also read that the parents didn't want him to get the ball just because he was crying.
| Runswithscissors |
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| 04/28/12 04:07 AM |
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WTF has become to society?...........same society that thinks its acceptable to interupt a child in school, throw a temper tantrum when they don't get their way......find another method to reach child, which is against rules.....through a tantrum over that......and then complains more and once again, throws another tantrum...
For Petes sake, he was 3!
| SRS |
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| 04/28/12 07:07 AM |
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3 year olds are not known for sharing. It is something that comes a couple of years later.
The couple should not have been flamed. But, honestly, after taking a picture with the ball - if I had been in their shoes I would have given the ball to him. And I loooove baseball.
| LexieBelle |
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| 04/28/12 09:31 AM |
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I tend to think it sends the wrong message to give the kid the ball, whether he or his parents wanted it or not.
DD was a crier/tantrum thrower. If people had thrown her money every time they wanted to throw some treat or whatever at her, I'd be rich. I would never allow people to give her stuff like that. Whether she "wanted" something or not, it gives the perception that "oh, I cried, someone gave me something". Not a good thing. I wouldn't have given the kid the ball. In fact? I'd probably give it to the kid nearest me who hadn't/misbehaved or pitched a fit. AND I'd make a POINT to tell crying child and parents WHY they weren't getting the ball. And yes, I've done this IRL, not sporting goods lol..but definitely items.
| Goodmom |
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| 04/28/12 09:47 AM |
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[quote] And yes, I've done this IRL, not sporting goods lol..but definitely items. [/quote]
Anybody who attempted to parent my child, like you are attempting to do to stranger's children, will be getting a piece of my mind about how inappropriate THEIR behavior is and how my child behaves better than that person.
My kids have gotten beyond the normal toddler tantrums, but if someone had butted in, like you are bragging about in your post, that person would have been put in his/her place and told to butt out, how I handle MY kids is my business not theirs.
| SRS |
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| 04/28/12 10:25 AM |
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Yeah, I stay out of other peoples child rearing. Not my business.
Kids at that age have tantrums. It is normal. When my kids did it, I'd give them a warning and if it didn't stop we'd leave where ever we were immediately. But, that is my style of parenting.
If someone butted in to my business, I'd first ignore them. Do it again and you'd get a piece of my mind for being an arse and no better than the 3 year old.
| LexieBelle |
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| 04/28/12 11:03 AM |
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How I handle something in MY possession? Is MY business.
I've had it done by others, with my child, I have no issue with it. Frankly, those actions by others probably sticks in her head more.. It's not just coming from "mom". Most kids care what others think. Definitely works
| LexieBelle |
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| 04/28/12 11:04 AM |
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The adult is being just that, an adult.
I've never had anyone have an issue with it. Most are grateful someone is reinforcing them.
| SRS |
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| 04/28/12 11:29 AM |
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or maybe they were just being polite and using your action an example for their kids on what not to do.
I still say it is not my job to lecture your children on what I see is proper behavior. My expectations may be different than yours kind of thing.
| Goodmom |
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| 04/28/12 12:07 PM |
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You said:
How I handle something in MY possession? Is MY business.
My response:
That is true. But you step WAY over the line when you actually address the child with the intention of teaching the child something. THAT is none of your business.
You said:
I've had it done by others, with my child, I have no issue with it. Frankly, those actions by others probably sticks in her head more.. It's not just coming from "mom". Most kids care what others think. Definitely works
My response:
Kids care what their PEERS think. When they are my kids ages and the one group that they don't consider to be their peers are adults. At 3 YEARS OLD, they don't really care what other adults think, it's all about mom and dad. All they see is a mean old lady who is trying to act like their parent. And, as I stated before, I would put anyone who attempted to do what you do to stranger's kids in their place. Rather loudly, so that everyone would know what a busybody that person is.
| LexieBelle |
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| 04/28/12 01:11 PM |
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Lol
| Treasure |
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| 04/28/12 09:03 PM |
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[quote]You said:
How I handle something in MY possession? Is MY business.
My response:
That is true. But you step WAY over the line when you actually address the child with the intention of teaching the child something. THAT is none of your business.
You said:
I've had it done by others, with my child, I have no issue with it. Frankly, those actions by others probably sticks in her head more.. It's not just coming from "mom". Most kids care what others think. Definitely works
My response:
Kids care what their PEERS think. When they are my kids ages and the one group that they don't consider to be their peers are adults. At 3 YEARS OLD, they don't really care what other adults think, it's all about mom and dad. All they see is a mean old lady who is trying to act like their parent. And, as I stated before, I would put anyone who attempted to do what you do to stranger's kids in their place. Rather loudly, so that everyone would know what a busybody that person is. [/quote]
Worth repeating. I would not appreciate her saying a damn thing to my child and would say as much. Nobody would. Just ridiculous to insinuate that anyone would.