Hi,

This is just my humble opinion, please dont shread me for what I am about to share, all of which was very personal and extreemly sad...

My feelings and something I have been through and another thing I have had a family go through...all leading to why I feel this way:

I am pro-choice, a woman should have the right to decide if she wants to have a baby or not. I think however things of this nature need some guidelines.

I think that nobody under 18 should be able to consent unless a parent or another adult is with them. I also think that people who go through this at a very young age or due to rape should be offered counseling.

I am however a very strong believer in being 1st and formost responsible with your reproductive health.

When I was 19 I got pregnant, by my 1st husband, who was attending school and was 20 at that time. It was a total mistake, a very stupid one to say the least. Usually we used birth control but that one evening we convinced ourselves together that just once it would be ok since it was so late into my cycle, bad move.

I learned a week later I was pregnant, back then the test took 2 hrs (OTC test). I spent weeks trying to figure out how I was to tell my parents, my mother was very old fashoned and I knew it would hurt her deeply to know I had done what I had.

My soon to be 1st husband mean while tried to convince me to terminate the pregnancy (his exact words for it). I was terrified to keep the baby but just as afraid of abortion, especially after how I was raised and what I was told about it. He set an appointment at a womans clinic for a blood test, when the nurse called us in to tell me I was pregnant for certain he asked to set the appointment for the abortion. I literally ran out the office, down the stairs and demanded to go home. I was working full time and decided one morning (a friday) that when I got home I would tell both my parents (knowing that as soon as I did they would be hurt and angry but would help me do what I needed to do and I would keep the baby. I never got to have that conversation with them. That afternoon I had a miscarrage at the office. I rushed to the clinic where an ultrasound showed I passed the baby already (so small I didnt even know I had).

My mother went to her grave 2 yrs ago, I never told her what happened, I wanted to tell her that I believed I had a little angel waiting for me, since I do believe that life starts at conception.

This is why I think nobody has the right to decide for someone if they can have a baby or not. Abortion was not something I could have ever gone through BUT its not for me to impose that on someone who feels differently.

I do however not like late term abortion. My cousin and his wife are about 10 yrs younger then I am, they are the sweetest pair you could ever meet. She is an RN working with children and he loves kids and is a teacher. It took the 2 yrs to get pregnant but something went wrong. The baby grew but her head was open in the back, part of the brain stem was exposed and the spine was also open. They did not know for certain till she was too far into it to have an abortion as I know it. They had to fly from NJ out to the mid west, not sure which state, it was all done very hush hush, they were told that the baby would posibly live the way she was but would be in a great deal of pain and be a vegitable. They did a late term abourtion and from the little I was even told it was the most awful experience. The baby came out whole but somehow the MD killed it (or what ever term they use for that). My cousin and their wife ot to hold her and the baby was prepared and sent back to NJ and they burried her. Because of what they went through they waited 4 yrs before they tried again, they did not tell anyone in the family that she was expecting till she was almost 7 months along. They named that baby Hope, we all balled our eyes out when he emailed the babys pic to us.

Abortion is a sticky topic. I am pro choice although I personally could never go through an abortion. I am against late term abortion, and I I think that there is enough medical advances that late term abortion should be out lawed. If they did Amnios on everyone, if they didnt wait so long to preform ultrasounds on low risk pregnancies then I think much of the bad stuff can be detected and then its up to the parents to make the decision what they should do (counseling vs an abortion in the 1st 1-14 weeks)

It makes my hair stand up personally and I still believe I have an angel waiting for me...

Mom 2 Girls

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