mom2gr8kids
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I will have shared custody with my future former husband. I have just started a new job which pays me double what my future former husband makes. I have worked hard the past 5 years to be able to afford to leave him. Especially considering I do not have a college degree and my future former does. Now, even with shared custody I am going to have to pay 1500 a month. This is going to make it VERY hard to make ends meet. My ex on the other hand is keeping the house and his parents are buying me out of the equity because he can't get a different place because of his job situation.
Aren't there limits for support in kansas when custody is shared?
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googledad
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No . The children are due the financial contributions of both parents as a means of equalizing the standard of living in both households .
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mom2gr8kids
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So, how long does he get to lolly-gag while I pay his way? I'm assuming until the kids are 18. If he marries and his household income changes, do I still have to supplement his income because he doesn't want to do what it takes to pay the bills?
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googledad
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[quote]So, how long does he get to lolly-gag while I pay his way? I'm assuming until the kids are 18. If he marries and his household income changes, do I still have to supplement his income because he doesn't want to do what it takes to pay the bills? [/quote]
>>>>>>>>>> As a male in the same situation as you (50/50) ,I get to pay until the child is 21 .
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1004SRS
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How often are you seeing your kids? If you are paying that much does he have primary custody? Certainly not 50/50.
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mom2gr8kids
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I do have 50/50. I actually had them 70% in November. And will have them 70% in December also. So frustrating.
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mabyn
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Welcome to the man's world. My husband had to give his cheating ex-wife 45% ($1,200) of his paycheck when they divorced. He was also left with the house payment and the larger car payment while she lived in a cheap little apartment, on rental assistance, food stamps, and state insurance and not having to claim all but $400 of that money she received on her taxes. On top of all of that, he had to pay for 80% of all bills for the kids and did she ever take advantage of that. The kids were in every dance lesson and going to the doctor for every hangnail they had. Child support laws and formulas need a second look. She has now remarried to a man making good money (the guy she had a 5-year affair with) and talked the youngest boy to move up with her. We had him for a year and told her that she didn't have to pay child support. Money got tight for her, so she talked the boy into moving up there. She now collects $760 a month for the one boy. He's still wearing the worn out rags that we bought him when he lived with us and that's been a year and a half ago. Child support is a legal way for vindictive ex's to torment their former spouses for years. I don't think non-custodial parents mind paying for their children, but they do not like giving large sums of money to people they usually hate, especially when none of the money is reaching the children. It's just paying for bills and shopping sprees for the ex. I think that support should be more in the form of coupons. Coupons for clothing (for the child), a little of the groceries, and maybe some electric bill and a little spending money. The way it is now is that non custodial parents pay for everything and then some and custodial parents pay for nothing.
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1004SRS
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It seems like a lot or money. What county are you in? I get more than most people I know for CS.
It is used for the kids btw, in my case. Who in the heck pays for the house for them to live in, the car insurance to drive them to school, private school, daycare, takes time off with them when they are sick....
Our expenses are split 55/45.
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ashleyb
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Child support changed in 2008. If it's 50/50, you would pay 90% of the ordered amount. If that's 1500 you would pay 1350. As of jan 1 2008, you get a 10% discount. Saying that, I want o court today with my ex over cs and he is supposed to pay 1200. He tried to negotiate down to 900. We have to back, so apparently it's not totally black and white.
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annatof4
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From my understanding, Kansas is purely based on a formula of the parents gross income. Does not take into account of the expenses at all. Nor does any other person residing in either household's income considered. If you have 50/50, you should have a % decreased for "parenting time". In a 50/50, I think it is around 35% of the original obligation. You might want to make sure that is on the KPC worksheet or domestic relations affidavit. It should be under related to "adjustments".
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