gr8Dad
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What, EXACTLY, do you want changed?
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ATLsahm
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[quote]First, you stated that, "he has attempted to move back into the main part of the house where I live and refuses to leave."
What do you mean "has attempted"? What has he done?
Also, how long has his father been paying the mortgage, and was there any temporary order ordering child support to be paid prior to this agreement? [/quote]
Oh, and yes, he moved most of his furniture back into one of the upstairs bedrooms that was empty.
No, no temporary court order for child support. I'll be looking into getting that done on Monday.
His dad has been paying the mortgage for several months now. But he's not on the deed or the mortgage. It's still the marital home, and therefore, I should be entitled to half of it I would think. If he's chosen to cover the mortgage because his son doesn't want to pay it, why does that mean I don't have a leg to stand on?
And Gr8dad, I do have to disagree with you about the alimony. It shouldn't matter who files for divorce, just the fact that I've given 26 years of my life to this relationship entitles me to something. He's pursued his career and is able to secure a VERY good wage, whereas I've given up a career to raise our family. Now, no one wants to hire me because I don't have "experience". Is that my fault for making the decision to be a stay-at-home mom, which is what we BOTH agreed would be best for our children? What about the woman who is divorcing her husband because he's cheated on her? Is she not entitled to receive alimony just because she's the one that filed? Your argument makes no sense.
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gr8Dad
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I pretty much figured that, but was giving you the benefit of the doubt.
Lets address your selfishness point by point:
"Oh, and yes, he moved most of his furniture back into one of the upstairs bedrooms that was empty."
So, he is storing some furniture in a room YOU had empty in a house that he is BUYING you out of and will be his in three months and that he LIVES in, with his FATHER, who is PAYING the mortgage. If I knew his father, I would tell him to go after half of what he has paid from YOU (cause its the MARITAL home, YOU are also responsible for HALF of the expenses, welcome to the real world), and to get it out of the amount your soon to be ex is paying you.
"No, no temporary court order for child support. I'll be looking into getting that done on Monday."
So, he has been VOLUNTARILY paying you child support, and you can't let him store some furniture in an EMPTY room?
"His dad has been paying the mortgage for several months now. But he's not on the deed or the mortgage. It's still the marital home, and therefore, I should be entitled to half of it I would think."
Its called GRATITUDE, look into it.
"And Gr8dad, I do have to disagree with you about the alimony. It shouldn't matter who files for divorce, just the fact that I've given 26 years of my life to this relationship entitles me to something."
And what does HE get for the 26 years he supported you so you DIDN'T have to work, or doesn't THAT count? What about the roof over your head or the food in your stomache, were you ENTITLED to that as well?
"He's pursued his career and is able to secure a VERY good wage, whereas I've given up a career to raise our family."
So you sat on your ASS in regards to education and work for 26 years, and now HE gets to PAY for that? Okay, when the kids are babies, you need to care for them, but what about when they started school? What did you do all day while they were at school? Bon bons and All My Children?
"Is that my fault for making the decision to be a stay-at-home mom, which is what we BOTH agreed would be best for our children?"
So he takes ALL of the responsibility for a JOINT decision?
"What about the woman who is divorcing her husband because he's cheated on her? Is she not entitled to receive alimony just because she's the one that filed? Your argument makes no sense."
Well, HE did something to break the marriage contract. In YOUR case, YOU broke the marriage contract by wanting OUT. Lemme guess, you weren't feeling FUFILLED, you weren't HAPPY, so you get to walk away and take him to the cleaners? Bullsh!t, you want out, you should get YOUR stuff and NOTHING more. You cannot disolve a BUSINESS partnership, on your OWN idea, and take the assets of the company with you.
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ATLsahm
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You know absolutely nothing about me other than what I've chosen to share, however it's obvious to anyone that you are completely jaded and can not possibly give unbiased advice. I'm very sorry you were screwed over, but build a bridge and get over it. We're not all the same. It's truly a shame that you have such a cynical view of life and people, and such a horrible judge of character. I came here looking for advice, but it appears as this forum is frequented by jaded, miserable people like you. Don't bother responding, I won't be back to read it.
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gr8Dad
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You came here looking for beauty shop cronies who would echo your sentiments and applaud you for sticking it to the big bad man who held you in oppression for 26 years, who FORCED you to live under the roof HE provided, eat the FOOD he provided, use the utilities HE provided. Everything you or the children consumed or used was provided by him. And you decided you wanted out, so you got half the house, to which you contributed NOTHING but a cleaning. You are getting child support for HIS half of the childrens care. With what will you provide YOUR half of their care? For that matter, what will you use for ANY of their care? You know you DO owe them support, right?
And WHY can't you work? Do the late teenage children still need after school CARE? Tonight I was waited on by a high school kid at McDonalds. Now HE had no experience.
You state you are not qualified for ANYTHING. So, will Dad be getting the kids, because if you have NO skills, you shouldn't really be raising children, now should you?
And you never DID answer what you wanted to change about the agreement. Figure you can take him for MORE? Like he BULLIED you into signing it. Maybe you could call the police and report the imaginary assault while there was witness. Maybe you could have signaled to the notary to call the police before you signed.
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]Hi everyone,
My spouse and I were supposedly attempting to have an uncontested divorce, and we were able to agree on just about everything, or so I thought. Once his attorney filed the Settlement Agreement (he has ALL the money, I have none) he cut me off financially (he'd been giving me child support), didn't give me the agreed upon property settlement funds (in which he was supposed to buy me out of my share of the home), and then moved back into the marital home without asking. I've been a stay-at-home mom who has homeschooled our four children for 20 years, and now I can't get a job in this economy because I haven't worked outside. I have $110 to my name. Is it too late to contest the Settlement Agreement? The hearing is scheduled for April 2. I don't want to contest the divorce - it was my choice as he was emotionally and mentally abusive. But he has broken the settlement agreement in three different areas: child support, property settlement (which I was accepting in lieu of alimony) and the separate and apart living clause.
Do I still have the ability to go before the judge and ask for mediation? I feel that the things I agreed to were under duress, as my spouse indicated if I did not accept the settlement he was offering, he would allow the house to foreclose and I would get absolutely nothing.
Thanks for any help you can provide.
AS [/quote]
Yiu are not contesting the agreement per se but trying to enforce it, which should happen.
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yregna
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ATLsahm,
You deserve nothing but contempt and abuse. Thank GOD your ex finally came to his senses. You should be out on the street selling that crack tween your legs, isn't that about your only value ?
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