mkgirl
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Hi All
I am married for 8 years. have a 7 years old son. I was a homemaker for 5 years and sacrificed my career to take care of my son and husband. For the past 3 years I am working. I earn $45 k and my husband earns 160K. He has a 150K in 401K that he accumulated during marriage.
Now we are planning to separate and then divorce due to incompatibility and horrible fights. I want to know how much child support and alimony will be offered to me.
My husband says he will pay whatever the judge says and I dont want to demand anything but for my future and my son's future I want to take his help.
How much can I suggest him ? Do I get a share in the retirement fund (401K) ?
Edited by mkgirl (04/21/11 05:47 PM)
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hanzblinx
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child support depends on your state. There are state calculators, so it's not about what you want, but what the laws are. Alimony also depends on state, but it's mostly up to the judge. 45K is actually plenty to live on so I dont know why you want to leech off him. 8 years is short term in all 50 states so if you are super lucky you might get a couple years of alimony, but I doubt. Just act like an adult and take care of yourself. Stand on your own 2 feminine feet for once.
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mkgirl
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I stayed at home when he did his Java certification and MBA and cooked and cleaned for him and now have no money for myself. Its not leeching off, its called "time to payback" for leeching me off.
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gr8Dad
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So he BOUGHT the food you cooked, and PAID for the house you cleaned and provided you with the things you needed. THAT was your "payback".
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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mkgirl
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If he had a housekeeper to do what I did (cook, clean, raise a kid) he would have to pay 60K per year. But I did it for FREE.
With his round the clock project meetings and conf calls and traveling you think all these chores can be done through his iphone and ipad ?
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gr8Dad
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Well, to begin with, if he had a housekeeper and was paying her $60K, the housekeeper would also have to pay RENT somewhere and UTILITIES and FOOD, etc. You didn't have to do that. Also, a housekeeper has STANDARDS that HE set.
"With his round the clock project meetings and conf calls and traveling you think all these chores can be done through his iphone and ipad ?"
Well, seems to me that if he was gone all the time, all the "cleaning" and "cooking" you had to do was for yourself and the kids, which ARE 50% your responsibility as well. I mean if he isn't THERE for a week, can you REALLY claim you were cleaning UP after him for the week?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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mkgirl
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If you are talking technicaliy then let me throw in sex, entertaining his family, grocery shopping and also being his nurse. He has set high standards and is so mad when I dont meet them. Only difference is a housekeeper wouldnt yell and eventually breakdown.
Just because he is traveling for 4 days a month does not mean I have no work and lie around. Its sick how men frame women as money-suckers while they exploit women physically.
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gr8Dad
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"while they exploit women physically"
Yeah, he provided for you, ALLOWED you to not work, put a roof over your head, and food in your stomach, you sound SO exploited. Well, if he is SO bad, why would you want to maintain contact, even through alimony?
Oh, and on the housekeeper issue, yes, a housekeeper wouldn't yell, but he or she also would not expect to get PAID after they stopped doing their job. So, since you EXEPCT him to continue to pay you, will you be continuing to DO the things you claim are worth so much?
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mkgirl
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What you mean "Expect to get paid after stopped doing their job ? " I was not paid in the first place, he has to pay only after we get separated.
Till today I am the housekeeper/wife/career woman.
Edited by mkgirl (04/21/11 07:01 PM)
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gr8Dad
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"I was not paid in the first place"
So who paid the rent or mortgage, utilities, paid for food, toilet paper, clothing, jewelery, make up, and everything else a normal household consumes?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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