Duckie
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I have a state recognized disabled child who has Aspbergers a form of Austim, she has other issues as well. Her father who has been estranged for going on 10 years has decided that because my child has a form of Autism, that he has diagnosed himself as being Autistic and therefor shoud not have to support my daughter and if he does it shall not go over $50 because he has too large of an entertainment bill for himself.
He wasn't autistic enough to keep from getting an erection and creating my daughter or restraining himself from taking advantage of me.
However he has gone around the internet various places playing the professional victim role as that we have destroyed his life and bantering on with lies and stories that are so wild I don't think Jerry Springer could handle it.
Truth is that he has an emotional disturbance and is so violent and out of control that he is removed from job after job after job.
An extremely reasonable offer of $200 was presented to the father and he declined it stating that it is too much.
The presumed amount is 286 plus medical, I offered $200 without medical.
The only true bill he has is rent which is $450 with all utils included.
What is one to do? He has an army of people that were estranged from him for years and years, that are going in to "testify" that he should not pay child support because of his self diagnosed autism.
What about my child's rights? My child is disabled and needs assistance.
This man has already got away with not having to pay back dues of 10 years, yet he has launched an all out campaign to sue me for filing for support. This whole thing is ridiculous. He got a continuance till June and i'm not sure why.
Where is my child's rights in all this? Why do these people attack me on the forums and never once take my child's needs into consideration?
I'm the mother, I'm the one who has been taking care of my daughter all these years. He only wants visitation (and publically stated this) "because that way I won't have to pay child support".
I could really use some support and maybe ideas.
I just don't think it's ok to use a self diagnosis of Autism as an excuse to be a dead beat dad.. I really don't.
Edited by Duckie (04/26/08 02:35 PM)
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gr8Dad
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First, why did this happen after 10 years of no contact?
Second, what kind of parenting time (don't use "visitation", it sounds bad) does he get and does he exercise it?
Third, how old is the child?
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DeeCan
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Is he drawing SSI for his self proclaimed disability? If so, many times there are dependent benefits.
Very rarely does a judge accept a self dx. He will have to submit medical reports proving his disability. Otherwise, he will be required to pay a state minimum of CS.
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Duckie
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He was declined SSI he attempted that and they caught him in his lies.
Child Support finally found him in November of 06. What happened was that he never had a drivers license, never worked or filed taxes till then. He finally got nailed in the system because he filed for SSI (or SI) and was declined.
This has been going on since 06 so it took me almost 7-8 years to find him due to his transient lifestyle. He of course disputes that, yet he posted a biography on his website stating he lived under bridges and in half way houses. To me that's transient.
My child is a minor and she is 9 years old and is recognized by SSI as being disabled we are about to recv our first SSI payment shortly.
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Duckie
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Oh and he has never met or wants to meet my daughter. He started to request it and posted on the forums that it's only to keep him from having to pay child support, so I told him it must be supervised and all said costs are his responsibility including travel. He became infuriated and wants to sue me for filing for support for my daughter.
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jil_stevens
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Let him sue you...might be amusing to watch him try to win THAT battle. Judges don't like parents who go out of their way to NOT pay support. And his self-diagnosis isn't going to fly, either. And given that he was turned down for SSI, my guess is he has no medical evidence to back up his claims. He should be paying child support.
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Duckie
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That's what I thought, my fear is that his oscar nominating role of professional victim may play to the ear of a bleeding heart liberal. He lives on the other side of the USA and the cs worker went in place of me due to hardship. It's just so frusterating that he was even allowed a continuance.. my assumption is that the judge asked for proof maybe? I know that he plans to provide some sort of documentation from a school when he was a child (this man is 30 something now) showing that he had violent outbursts. He even submitted documents showing how his "bills" and "spending" increased since he was served about child support, his "fans" on his favorite NCP forum keep encouraging him to pile up the bills and to "screw her over" and call me a money sucking cow (in other words that are appropriate).
But $84 a month for a coin collection started after the DNA test doesn't fly with me and $575 bucks for videos and video games, I only hope a judge see's through this.The only true bill he has is $450 which is his rent with all utils included.
I'm just worried that there are no rights for my child. He made this out to be all about him.. but it should be about my child. My disabled child who deserves a few extra things in life, which is what that money would provide.
That NCP forum, the posters don't bother to see the truth that this man is a dead beat dad and legally he should have to pay.
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Relayer
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[quote]Is he drawing SSI for his self proclaimed disability? If so, many times there are dependent benefits.
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There are no dependent benefits with SSI. There is with SSDI however.
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Relayer
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Until his self-diagnosis is confirmed by a doctor, it means nothing to the court. I would proceed as if there is nothing wrong with him.
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Miranda
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If he is a transient then how does he post on forums, and how do you know he posts on forum? Did I miss that?
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