mbg13
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I just emailed him and oferred to pay 50% of all of the payments he has already made immediately and then start making 50% of the monthly payments from now on. He refused and demanded the full $1,800 right away.
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gr8Dad
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You can finance it, go to a bank, borrow $1800 and give it to him, then make the payments to the bank. The problem with YOU financing it by paying HIM partial payments is that if you stop paying, HE is stuck with the bill.
Out of curiosity, did the court "finance" his payments on the braces, or did they want it all at once?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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gr8Dad
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He is making payments on HIS account. If she stops, there is nothing enforceable, and he is jammed up.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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MTmom
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Your son is 20, almost 21? Why are you and his father still this involved in his life? When I was 20 I had a mortgage, my own health insurance, a full time job, and was finishing college. I would have never gone to my parents with cosmetic dental procedure and expected them to pay for it, let alone to fight with each other over how much each was responsible to pay for my teeth.
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cpnebraska
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I was beginning to think I was the only one who noticed the ages.
At almost 21? Get a job and pay for it kid. That's what a lot of people had to do.
I guess TX may be one of the states that CS goes until they are 24 and out of college?? My state stops at 19 so I have no clue.
I agree that you both put the money in to fix the teeth, why let it go to waste? BUT I want my kids to be independent adults so I would put DS on a payment plan to pay both of you back for this. That is just me though.
Maybe you can talk to ex about DS paying a third just to get a taste of real life?
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annieo
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It isn't cosmetic - his teeth will move into the places there are no teeth and then he will have eating issues and most likely jaw issues (pain) that can lead to other medical issues - if those teeth continue to move it can become very difficult for their son.
The braces most likely pulled it all into place knowing they would have to do something to get "permanent" teeth somehow. I do not think in this case it is just to "look nice" - he's had the work done to straighten them and I am guessing due to his age at the time and the fact that they were straitening the teeth the implants had to come second to the braces.
I could be wrong - I know a WHOLE lot about implants, partials, crowns, root canals, etc.. having had my entire mouth have tons of work due to having been a sick child and then what enamel I had eroded off due to horrible acid reflux problem - I have had a little bit of all of it and even had crowns across the bottom lowers to create "straight" teeth as an adult - I should have had braces as a kid and did not which lead to more issues including horrible headaches from the misalignment of my teeth and jaw. Not all braces are completely cosmetic.
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mbg13
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[quote]Out of curiosity, did the court "finance" his payments on the braces, or did they want it all at once? [/quote]
The court told him to just pay, but his attorney came to me ask me if I would take partial monthly payments and I agreed.
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mbg13
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Thanks everyone for their opinions.
I'm leaning towards contributing half...but making monthly payments. If he doesn't agree, then he can take me court and then let them decide. I'm frankly tired and want to move on.
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MTmom
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If you want to contribute, work it out with your son. He is an adult - you and your ex should no longer be fighting with each other about his expenses. Pay because you 'want' to help. Not because your ex says you 'have' to.
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ssmom79
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I don't know why you're getting demand letter from someone about a 20 year old man, but I assume there is a court order still in effect.
First, define reasonable. Yea, it's pretty tough. One person's reasonable is another person's freak-show. I don't see a problem splitting the cost of a dental procedure if you think the treatment is reasonable. I think your problem is the demand and time to pay the demand (which I agree is a little unreasonable). When you add that he is making payments also, then the demand becomes even more absurd. How about calling the dentist, agreeing to 50% of the responsibility, then making payment arrangements with them directly. The ortho we used for SD was willing to do this. These days, a lot of them might be agreeable to that. What do you think?
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